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Abortion Recovery and Healing Ritual

  • Originally published as an appendix to Among the Goddesses: An Epic Libretto in Seven Dreams, an epic poem about abortion by Annie Finch (Red Hen Press, 2010) 

This ritual can be done alone or with any or all members of the family or community affected by your abortion–the people that the baby might have known. I developed it for myself and my family when I felt depressed after an abortion.  For me the healing effects were immediate, complete, and lasting: in the twenty years since the ritual, I have felt only peaceful, calm, and grateful about my abortion.  The ritual can be done any time after your abortion, even years later.

 

AFTER-ABORTION RITUAL FOR RECOVERY AND HEALING

PREPARATION

This ritual can be done alone or with any or all members of the family or community affected by the abortion.

Prepare for the ritual ahead of time by taking quiet time to write a letter to the baby.  Young children, or those who prefer not to write, may draw a picture for the baby, or create a piece of music or a dance.   Bring along some grain such as millet, rice, oats, or flour.  Also think about how you will give the four elements to the baby, and which chant or song you would like to sing.

THE RITUAL

Build a small circular altar of sticks piled as high as you like.   Put anything you like on top:  a shell, grass, special objects.

Arrange yourselves around the altar.  If a family does the ritual together, the parents might want to stand in the north and south.

Create a sacred space around the altar.  This can be done by calling in the directions to cast a circle, or in any way you like.  To call in the directions simply, face each compass direction and ask “spirits of the east (north, west, south, center), please be with us.”

Speak an invitation to any ancestors, spiritual guides, divine beings, or presences whom you would like to support you in the ritual.

Say hello to the spirit of the baby.  Each person should use a name that feels right to them; the names can be all the same or different.

Convey your messages to the baby aloud.  Read letters, talk about pictures, and perform any music or dance messages.

Add the four elements to the altar:  Earth (perhaps a special rock or stone), air (your letters or pictures, or a feather), water (a little can be poured on the altar or left in a receptacle) and fire (a crystal is good for this).

Choose a simple song, such as “The earth, the air, the fire, the water, return, return, return, return.” (This is a common chant; there are many versions available; here is  me singing the version I know).  If you are in a group, sing it together standing still, then in a round (perhaps with female/male parts or however you want to break it up), then together again while holding hands and circling the altar (circle counterclockwise for releasing).

Scatter grain around the area to symbolize the life-force (or goddess/god) who gave the baby life, gave each of us to our parents, and is the source of life.  You can sing another song together while doing this (a child in our family chose “Happy Birthday.”)

Tell the baby goodbye, thank you, and that it will always be a part of your family.

Open (disband) the circle by reversing whatever you did to cast it.  Say thank you and goodbye to any ancestors or spirits you invoked.

Be sure to allow some quiet time together afterwards to absorb the experience.

Originally published as an appendix to Among the Goddesses: An Epic Libretto in Seven Dreams, an epic poem about abortion by Annie Finch (Red Hen Press, 2010) 

“The Seafarer,” Translated from Anglo-Saxon by Annie Finch
Poet-Voice and the Missing of Meter
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  1. Annie FinchBrooklyn Johnson says

    April 4, 2019 at 5:22 pm

    I like how you mentioned that the healing effects of the ritual were immediate, complete, and lasting. My daughter is highly considering getting an abortion, and I want to be prepared for the recovery and have ideas of what we can do to help us heal. After learning of the healing benefits of the ritual, I will definitely advise my daughter to do it if she does decide to have an abortion.

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  2. Annie FinchAnnieFinch_Admin says

    May 1, 2019 at 1:39 pm

    Dear Brooklyn,
    Absolutely! For her to plan and perform this ritual with people in her life who are affected by the abortion and who she wants to be there will open an important path to complete healing. She is lucky to have your support and care. I also highly recommend the book Peace After Abortion by Ava Torre-Bueno, for you both. Please sign up on this page to be kept in the loop about an abortion anthology I am currently editing, https://anniefinch.com/choicewords/ Blessings to you, and let us know how it goes!

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